For the past five years, five days a week, I’ve written about dogs. About the love, loss, joys and frustrations we experience with our pups.
To commandeer the famous Lou Holtz phrase, I believe that for those who know dogs, no explanation is necessary. And for those who don’t know dogs, no explanation will suffice.
For many people, a dog is, dismissively, “just a dog.” Just, meaning – simply; only; no more than.
No explanation can fully illuminate why the time, dedication and love we share with our pups are worthy efforts, but I hope my story might help some rethink what “just a dog” really means.
Because “just” can also mean “exactly.” As in, Eko was just what I needed at a very difficult time in my life
Five years ago I was a ship unmoored, battered by the waves of life. I was uncertain of my direction both personally and professionally. The only thing I felt certain about was wanting a dog.
Just a dog.
Not until you have held your first dog in your arms do you realize every dog is a guide dog. My wrinkly puppy fearlessly guided me through choppy waters. People ask questions about plans, directions and deadlines. Because Eko is just a dog, he didn’t care about those things – as long as we were together.
So that’s what we did. Just – simply, only, no more than – stayed together. And we did so on the adventure of a lifetime – a 15,000+ mile road trip across the country.
We just saw a few buildings
Just visited a few parks
Just marched in a parade (or two)
And just caught a few waves
Like all adventures, my journey was one of self-discovery. One entirely made possible by my four-legged co-conspirator. Who else but a dog would so gleefully and eagerly follow you without concern? I often lacked direction, but I never lacked effusive love.
The judgmental implication of the phrase “just a dog,” is that dogs are not deserving of the love and attention we give them. It’s an admonishment. A reminder dogs are not people. A warning we’re too attached.
First, we must address the shocking truth. Dogs are not people. *gasp* And thankfully not. The relationship between a person and a dog is unique. It’s a retreat away from the demands of relationships with other people. It’s a quiet, persistent bond unlike any other.
The mistake in the above logic is the inherent assertion only people are worthy of effort and devotion. In fact, the fidelity we show our dogs is only just — just, as in, fair, equitable, deserved.
One of these things is just a dog, and it’s not Eko
After he helped me overcome one of the most difficult times in my life, how could I show Eko anything other than the same singular devotion he showed me?
It’s a devotion the people who love us understand. Because love is not a finite resource to guard. It’s an infinite possibility that can somehow still fit on a single futon
Which is why after our road trip ended, Eko and I moved to Chicago to be with my longtime girlfriend, Emily. We settled into a comfortable routine, until a couple years later when I had a familiar feeling that we needed to shake things up.
And so we did!
Puppy Penny kicked off a mad scramble of near continuous (mis)adventures as we scouted our new city
Because of Eko and Penny we’ve explored more than we ever would have without them
We’ve savored each day more than we ever would have without them
And we’ve certainly smiled a whole lot more than we ever would have without them
On account of a couple dogs helping one lost boy find his way, we even had a wedding!
Emily and I got married, that is. Not the dogs.
Through it all, everything I love still manages to fit on an old futon
So why do I write about just dogs? Because it’s just a couple dogs who help me find and rediscover myself each day.
And for those who still say they’re “just” dogs? I agree. I’d never want them to be anything else.